Teacher or Teller

I just love it when I get hit upside the head with something that is so screamingly obvious it pushes my buttons 7 ways from Sunday.

OK maybe that’s going a bit overboard with the metaphor but you get the point.

In a recent discussion, someone told me that two teachers in a relationship with each other weren’t necessarily a good match because they were always “telling each other what/how to do___”…because that is how teachers teach.

The simple fact that it DID upset me spoke volumes.

As I thought about it I realized that the best teachers guide their students on a journey of self-discovery. They understand their subject and students so well that they can formulate questions to encourage them to find their own answers. While there are times that some details may be necessary to provide a foundation…that foundation is best laid when the subject is eager for knowledge.

Those teachers that feel pressed to deliver, unqualified or limited in their scope of knowledge may resort to an answer that includes some form of “that’s the way it is”.

Or there is the parental fall back of – “here let me do it for you”, because it’s faster and simpler in our push button world.

I’ve done both in my time. And I can recall the frustration…and guilt, when as a young parent or teacher – I would say or do these things because I felt a lack of choices.

Most often it would be with something that either came naturally to me and I didn’t know how I knew something or some time when I had neglected to plan my time well and everyone paid for my shortsightedness.

On the other hand, I’ve worked as a vocal and speech coach with adults who struggle with presenting themselves, speaking up or performing and seen the results when a well meaning but unskilled music teacher (stuck with being a choir teacher in addition to their regular classroom duties) or parent who told the child to “just mouth it” or “we just need you to sing more softly —- all the time” and that child grew up believing they “couldn’t or shouldn’t” sing or speak out.

I have been fortunate to be surrounded by people who loved what they did, my parents who read to me or let me listen for hours on end to talking books. Music teachers within and without my family who loved to sing as well as teach. I even remember in college when I solidified my love for history. There is little doubt that it was tied to my Western Civ Professor who, for 12 weeks, one short semester, spoke of places and times past from a personal relationship. She had traveled all over Europe and her eyes would light up when she talked about the Parthenon or the Coliseum. It’s been over 30 years and while I admit I don’t remember her name, I remember her passion and love of the subject.

I believe it is the same thing with children. When we share our love of reading, music, math, science, nature…whatever the subject NOT because we want them to love it but just because it flows out of our own love for it – they will pick up on it. We’re not telling them they have to learn something – we’re sharing with them our own enthusiasm. There is no need to force them…because we really love what we’re doing.

So the next time you want to help someone learn a concept, skill or craft, if it becomes a struggle – take a moment and ask yourself these questions:

  1. Do I love what I’m talking about?
  2. Am I trying to “tell” them what to do?
  3. Do I feel like I have enough tools in my tool bag that I can help them discover their own answers?
  4. Am I unattached to their results?

If you answered no to any of these – consider asking for outside help. And let me know how it goes.

In the meantime, thank someone today that has inspired you, share a smile with someone you love and find something to laugh about :) it’ll keep you young at heart.

Love,
Kira

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Do you have Big Questions about life?

When I moved out here to Southern California I had a wonderful opportunity to meet and work with Royce Morales. My journey with her has been a corner stone of the person I am today.

Royce isn’t your typical human – she really understands that everything in life is interconnected. Not only that, but through PLA (Perfect Love Awakening), she teaches others a step-by-step process to experience the same joy and freedom.

This next week she will be hosting a free seminar in Redondo Beach and if you are ANYWHERE in the area I can’t urge you enough to make sure that you are there!

Here is what she has to say -

Perfect Love Awakening presents

“The Foundation Seminar…”
for life answers and so much more!

  • Why can’t I seem to be fully present, living as who I really am?  What keeps getting in the way of feeling powerful and deserving in my life?  Why does it always feel like something is missing?
  • I am struggling all the time!  My dreams seem to elude me.  I hunger for my life to change, yet I feel the influence of my past determining my future.  Why? What can I do to free myself?  What is my soul trying to communicate and why can’t I hear it?

Perfect Love Awakening is an accelerated inner transformational method that opens you to you, clearing out what gets in the way of fully loving yourself and your life!

PLA offers valuable life-keys to unlock what’s keeping you stuck in joyless, repetitious patterns.

Shift from fear to trust, anger to love, numbness to joy by discovering and releasing self-sabotaging core inner programming that’s getting in your way. 

Deserve to create the life you were born to live!

Attend this free introductory class to find out what PLA offers. 

Tuesday May 12th at 7 p.m. 
Please R.S.V.P. to reserve your space!
PLA Center location: 
235 Avenida Del Norte,
the Riviera Village in Redondo Beach.
The PLA office is in the back building upstairs.

Go to www.placlasses.org for detailed directions and further information about PLA, or contact Royce at  310) 791-7104 daytime or (310) 543-2343 to leave a voicemail message anytime.

OK – so there you have ALL the “Who, What and Where”…

…you know the Why…it’s in your heart as you’ve read this post. So call today and make the most of all of your tomorrows!

I did.

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A Singers Journey

Progressing from Novice to Artist

“A singers work is never done.” That is the first thing that comes to mind when asked to discuss the varying levels of proficiency for a singer.

To start with – the instrument itself is dynamic. It is always changing and affected by a number of items that, in and of themselves, are also dynamic. These include such factors as:

  • Overall health
  • Age
  • Emotions
  • Environment
  • The performing ensemble (the ability to interact, connect with and trust the other performers and audience)
  • Innate skills (God given – don’t know how or why they can do something)
  • Acquired skills through practice and education

This dynamic state of flux is the single most noticeable attribute that wears any singer down. Our expectation is that that once we get a handle on a particular skill we can move on. We are finished with “that” and we don’t want to work on “it” any more. Nowhere is this more evidenced than in the breathing skills. Yet, each successive skill is built with an ever-increasing awareness of the breath, which connects us to our bodies, our sound and our music.

From Novice to Expert I believe that a singer tends to fall within one OR MORE of the “Four Stages of Competency”. The singer may move backward or forward based what is going on in their lives. For example, a woman during pregnancy may find that breathing while singing, takes on a completely new dimension, even though she had reached the point in her career where it required little thought due to her physical exercise routine during the “non-pregnant” state. Additional, recovering after any kind of vocal distress requires patience that the singer may or may not willingly accept.  

Moreover, the idea that just because I KNOW how something is to be done, I can immediately integrate it, has tripped more potential adult singers than any single perceived obstacle. As Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act but a habit.” In addition, contrary to the popular saying “practice makes perfect” any accomplished artist or sportsman knows that practice makes permanent, therefore perfect practice make perfect performance.

Being one to have a firsthand relationship with the saying, “God grant me patience, but hurry”, it has taken years to find that place where “now” is filled with “joy”. I have fought with myself to own the concept that the joy is in the journey, not the destination. As singers, we will always be in a state of growth or decay – we choose. As Kim Hulbert once pointed out, a state of perfection is only achieved when you are six feet under.

So let’s briefly examine the four stages before we look at the myriad of skills, either innate or learned, that one finds in an artist who uses their instrument as their brush and the universe as their canvas.

Starting with the first stage, we have “Unconscious Incompetence.” At this level, a Novice singer neither understands nor knows how to do something beyond singing the words and generally the right notes. Moreover, they are not even aware that they don’t know. In many cases, the Novice or Beginning singer will quickly move OUT of this stage in one or more skill area1 but still have the majority of skills fall within the stage. For example while many singers begin to get a handle on breathing as to move into stage two or even three, it will be sometime before they understand or even recognize Vocal Freedom (see skill areas below) . The preconceived idea of what is “good” or what the singer “should” sound like can take time to process – let alone recognize that they are trying to sing in a style that isn’t their true voice.

Moving on to the second stage of learning known as “Conscious Incompetence”, though the singer does not understand or know how to do something, the singer does recognize it, even though they cannot execute it. The Advanced Beginner is seen primarily in this stage. They may have a limited number of these areas beginning to emerge in the third stage of competence yet it is almost a toss of a coin as to the ability to execute any of the skill (see below).

In the third stage known as “Conscious Competence”, the singer understands or knows how to do most of the skills necessary for a wonderful performance. However, demonstrating the skill or the execution requires a great deal of focus or concentration. This is where you will find many of the “good” singers – very proficient but much presence of mind is required on their part. We can easily fall into the trap of “good enough” at this stage because we are having fun, the audience enjoys the performance and we probably don’t have to spend a lot of our time outside of rehearsal maintaining this level of competency to variying degrees.

During this third stage the singer may even have one remaining skill that is still at level one due to either a lack of ability to experience it, never having had the opportunity to be a part of it, a belief that it is beyond their capabilities OR a fundamental resistance to allowing it to happen. I believe it is this ability to experience a truly Artistic moment of delivery. This experience, more than any other, will encourage the singer to progress and seek to own the final level of competency in all of the skills.

Unconscious Competence is achieved when the singer has had so much practice with a skill that it becomes “second nature” and is performed easily and effortlessly. The singer may or may not be able teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned. Someone considered an “Expert” singer exhibits the first six skill areas, as noted below, at this level to a high degree of consistency. Again, the important thing to remember here is that the human instrument is dynamic. Therefore, the Expert singer will revisit all of the skill areas during rehearsal / practice sessions. A singer who really believes that their instrument is a gift from a higher power will continue to practice these skills so that the performance is free of any effort to control the sound thereby allowing them to stay in touch and in tune with their audience.

Finally, I believe that there is a level beyond “Expert” where the singer is truly an Artist. The Artist owns all of the six skill areas and is blessed when they are one with the seventh (see #7 below). This experience is a rarity; I believe this rarity is often because we are afraid to be laughed at, to make a mistake, yes even to fall on our face. We refuse to risk much – therefore our ability to experience much is elusive. It is important to remove all elements of doubt within any performance. Knowing that we can deliver (Conscious Competence) is only a single element of the Artistry, trusting that we have the ability to deliver (Unconscious Competence) is yet another key. However, it does not stop there. In an ensemble, there are other performers on the stage. This level of Artistry means that everyone trusts each other to deliver. That takes time, preparation and Belief. Or maybe—that’s where it all starts…

 

The following list is a short version of an ensemble singer’s skill area.

  • Breath
    • Breath Space (the sound will never be any better than the breath space that precedes it)
      • Singing in this same space
      • Ability to take personal breaths during ensemble singing
        • Breathe…while lip-syncing a word
    • Ability to use varying types of Breaths (which may include)
      • Catch—Used for emotional impact only and not in places that require air
      • Quick—Used within passages which are increasing in tempo and always preceded by an increase in volume
      • Tempo—Used in both Uptunes and Ballads, this breath has a measured space and time to be taken…within the tempo of the song.
      • Slow—Also used for emphasis and emotional impact. The entire space between previous phrase and new phrase is used for breathing.
      • Delay—Usually used at emotional high point of song and/or for setting it apart from chorus or verse. This breath offers a definitive white space…then…breath is taken in tempo of next passage.
  • Posture
    • Total connection from Head to Toes
      • Head / Neck soft and flexible – almost a liquid buoyant feel
      • Shoulders – relaxed and back
      • Rib Space – lifted and expanded / free and floating
      • Chest / Sternum – lifted
      • Back – tall and in line with the body (avoiding sway-back)
      • Abdomen – free to support the sound with lift
      • Flexibility and connection in the lower body parts (particularly soft flexible knees and foot posturing that enhances the sound not adds to the body tension
      • Presence and awareness of the facial posturing (keeping it alive, lifted and involved)
  • Accuracy
    • Tonal Center (always aware of key or “do”)
    • Pitch – Notes – singing the note not “in the area of”
    • Clean Intervals
    • Tuned Chords
  • Articulation
    • Appropriate, well-matched vowels and consonants that enhance (don’t interrupt) the flow of the tone / a Flowing Vocal Line
    • Singing Word Sounds
      • Consonants
        • Space and Treatment: some that deserve consideration
          • M
          • N
          • L
          • R
          • TH
          • K
          • NG
          • H
          • B
      • Vowels
        • Single Vowel Sounds
          • AH
          • EH
          • EE
          • OO
          • IH
          • EH
          • UH
          • Ǽ (hat)
          • IR
          • ER
          • AW
        • Diphthongs
          • I or eye à AH-ee
          • OH à OH-oo
          • A as in say à EH-ee
          • Other word examples include;
            • You à ee-OO
            • Yet à ee-EH
            • Wet à oo-EH
        • Triphthongs
          • Y à oo-AH-ee
        • A visual chart as well as audio examples of several of these can be seen / heard at http://www.paulmeier.com/ipa/diphthongs.html
  • Resonation – Backspace/Ring is where the warmth of your sound is developed
    • The back of the mouth and the throat are the resonators that are soft tissue and absorb the highs in the sound. Incorporating more backspace can lead to an overly dark sound. We want a well-balanced sound with equal parts backspace and ring.
    • Ring is developed in those resonators with hard surfaces, they put the “ping” in the sound and that is where the overtone lives. These resonators magnify the highs in the sound but too much will bring about an abrasive, less than beautiful sound.
      • An appropriate amount of backspace and ring is the balance desired.
    • There are four areas of resonation available to the singer:
      • The area from the top of the larynx to the back of the mouth – Laryngopharynx
      • The back of the mouth – Oropharynx
      • The mouth
      • The nasal passages and sinus cavities – Nasopharynx

Vocal Energy and Freedom aided not distracted by:

  • Preconceived ideas of:
    • Appropriate sound
    • Your OWN sound
  • Tension in the body – to be used or released
  • Muscle use – is it working for the sound or against it
  • Emotional state – in a state of distress or not
  • Focus – are we in the moment, hanging on to something previous or anticipating something coming
  • Ebb and Flow of Delivery – the ability to move with the sound
  • Artistic Delivery2
    • Having all of the previous skills to a great degree of competency, the singer is able to be one with the message in the music and take the listener on a journey. During this journey, the listener is able to suspend belief transporting the audience to another place and time.
    • The artist is able to open their heart, their soul, and let the audience see beyond the mask
    • The energy is fed and created by the interaction between the audience and the artist

A thank you to the many wonderful teachers whose wisdom may be recognized throughout this writing – you see – we are a conglomeration of those in whose paths we follow. Here is a list of the ones I can recall in random order – Dr. Eve-Anne Wilkes, Dale Syverson, Jim Casey, Bonita Wall, Peggy Gram, Charla Esser, Darlene Rogers, Shirley Kout, Kim Hulbert, Betty Clipman, Jim Arns, Ron Black, Bobbette Gantz, Connie Noble, Travis Rogers, Paul Drummond, Greg Lyne, Joe Lyles, Jan Gervais, Freddie King, Judy Ashmore, Tony DeRosa, Joni Bescos, Jack Barnard, and finally of the students I’ve had as a teacher with the Napa Valley Unified School District and Sweet Adelines.

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International Day of Peace

Aristotle once said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then, is not an act, but a habit.”

On September 21, 1981, the United Nations declared an International Day of Peace. In 2002, the General Assembly officially declared September 21 as the permanent date for this momentous occasion.

As a habit then, I believe that peace starts within, within our own hearts and souls. World peace will only be a reality when we find ourselves at peace individually. We can make this happen one moment at a time. I don’t know anyone that rides the Love Train 24/7 – 365 days a year, but we can begin the journey together and find ways to embrace the peace and love. 

One morning a few days ago, I woke with two tunes going through my head. One was a line from the song by John Lennon – “all we are saying is give peace a chance”. It repeated incessantly. It was overlaid by another tune and the following poem, which I wrote and share with you today –

 

I feel love in every day; I feel love in every way

I feel love deep in my heart, in every day there’s a brand new start.

I feel the peace flowing through my soul I feel the love that makes me whole

I feel peace I know I’m free I feel that peace deep inside of me

I feel peace of ages past; I feel that peace – I’m home at last

I feel the peace flowing through my soul I feel the love that makes me whole

I feel peace I know I’m free I feel that peace deep inside of me

I feel peace of ages past I feel that peace – I’m home at last 

 

I won’t kid you and say that I always feel this way. In fact, I’ve really begun to understand that the more I think I know, the further there is to go.

Nevertheless, it is a start and it is part of what allows me to know moments of total freedom. Something so ingrained that I know no one can take it from me. That if I “lose” it – it’s because I’ve chosen to give it up.

Thank you all for being part of my journey to freedom!

Love,

Kira

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Pelmanism: Book 2 on Purpose

As I move into the second book on Pelmanism I like the way he speaks about your purpose coming from feelings rather than thought. As he says, “there is more heart in it than head.”

Just like in Freedom’s Formula  when we talk about finding our own freedom it’s the ability to get to the root of the issue – shine some light on it – and move forward.

With purpose and an inner freedom in our lives we have energy, we’re filled with sunshine and a spirit of love. It’s easier to be “present” for those around us. We can recognize the miracles that are around us every moment of every day.

Your purpose may be seen in your activities with your family, your church, your community…or even the world. By focusing on what you want in life you will help to create more of it. Mother Theresa would attend a Peace Ralley but never an Anti-War Ralley – she focused on what she believed in.

One of the other points that Mr. Ennever points out in the second Pelmanism book is that having a purpose helps develop your recollective ability and we will look more at this one in the next post.

In the mean time – make it a great weekend and for those of you in the US – have a great Labor Day holiday.

In Harmony,
Kira Wagner

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Will Mr. Potter PLEASE Shut Up!

OK, I’m not talking about my elementary school band teacher OR “Harry Potter’s” deceased father…

It’s a shade of another Mr. Potter who makes it to the homes of many TV viewers at least once a year around Christmas time.

You’ve seen “It’s A Wonderful Life”. You remember when the bank examiner is looking for the “missing” $8,000? George is desperate and he is listening to Mr. Potter as our “villain” continues to belittle him.

I’m talking about all of the Mr. Potter’s out there that I’ve tried to cash in the life insurance policy with – every time I needed direction.

Mr. Potter’s interest is the domination of George Hatch. And George is buying it as he chooses to see himself as Mr. Potter describes him—instead of the view from his heart. George, in a moment of desperation, turns not to his friends but to Mr. Potter for help. He forgets that he has a world full of beautiful friends that would be there in an instant if they knew something was amiss.

I sometimes feel like that. Like the gifts I have are of little value on this earth. And I look for other ways to cash in the policy; cashing in pursuing other business ventures primarily. Don’t get me wrong, I’m all for multiple streams of income, but not at the expense of forsaking our greater purpose in life. If that doesn’t come first—well it’s like the sounding brass without love.

The thing is – I, we ask for the Mr. Potter’s of this world to TELL US we’re worthless. They only have the power to affect us because we give it to them. So the next time someone tries to steel your dream, tell you you’re in the wrong business or not good enough, puts you down because you’re “different” … whatever your “Mr. Potter” is telling you—remember this—it’s your choice to stay and listen. Make a choice to remember just how loved you are today.

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The Courage to be Myself

This is something that I received this weekend at a education seminar with Sweet Adelines during one speaker’s presentation, Kathy Carmody, related to The Four Agreements.

It pays to be open to finding inspiration and education around every turn. Your ultimate opportunity may be right in front of you if you allow yourself to be in this moment.

I have the courage to embrace my strengths–
Get excited about life–Enjoy giving and receiving love. –
Face and transform my fears –
Ask for help and support when I need it–
Spring free of the Superwoman Trap–
Trust myself — Make my own decisions and choices –
Befriend myself — Complete unfinished business –
Realize that I have emotional and practical rights–
Talk as nicely to myself as I do to my plants –
Communicate lovingly with understanding as my goal –
Honor my own needs–
Give myself credit for my accomplishments–
Love the little girl within me –
Overcome my addiction to approval –
Grant myself permission to play — Quit being a Responsibility Sponge –
Feel all of my feelings and act on them appropriately–
Nurture others because I want to, not because I have to–
Choose what is right for me–
Insist on being paid fairly for what I do–
Set limits and boundaries and stick by them–
Say “yes” only when I really mean it–
Have realistic expectations–
Take risks — Accept and grow through challenges–
Be totally honest with myself — Wave Good-bye to guilt–
Correct erroneous beliefs and assumptions–
Respect my vulnerabilities–Heal old and current wounds–
Favor the mystery of spirit–
Plant “flower” not “weed” thoughts in my mind–
Treat myself with respect and teach others to do the same–
Fill my own cup first, then nourish others from the overflow–
Own my own excellence–
Plan for the future but live in the present–
Value my intuition and wisdom–
Know that I am lovable–
Celebrate the differences between men and women–
Develop healthy, supportive relationships–
Make forgiveness a priority–
Love and Accept myself just as I am now.
~ Sue Patton Thoele
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