Gratitude Day 14 – So Many Blessings

The other day one of the posts on FaceBook said that the problem with finding something new every day until Thanksgiving to be grateful for was that “it was harder the longer it went on”. I’ve thought about that … a lot since then.

I admit there are moments when the dreams or plans I’ve had seem to take a turn in a direction that I can see no purpose or point – and I get in a temporary funk. But it’s always come full circle and slowly I’ve learned to just be present with…whatever is happening. As long as I continue to do my best and be prayerfully minded I’ll understand it eventually and it will all work out perfectly.

If I’ve had any challenge with this series, it’s picking only one thing a day to be grateful for. A warm bed to sleep in and food to eat are two that so many of us take for granted. I thank God for these and so much more. Sometimes I like to sing myself to sleep with the words of Irving Berlins, Count Your Blessings – as he wrote, “When I’m worried and I can’t sleep, I count my blessings instead of sheep and I fall asleep counting my blessings.”

Until tomorrow…

Kira Wagner, Your Freedom Guide

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Gratitude Day 13 – “Redneck”

Today I’m grateful that I’m a Redneck. I know, it’s a bit of a left turn and with the “redneck” association to the south but I was pleased when I received this in an email from a friend. It’s a different take, and I think that it applies across continents and cultures as it’s really about respect and heart.

So while we have enjoyed the redneck jokes for years, it’s time to take a reflective look at the core beliefs of a culture that values home, family, country and God.

You might be a redneck if:

  • It never occurred to you to be offended by the phrase, ‘One nation, under God’
  • You’ve never protested about seeing the 10 Commandments posted in public places
  • You still say ‘Christmas’ instead of ‘Winter Festival’
  • You bow your head when someone prays
  • You stand and place your hand over your heart when they play the National Anthem
  • You treat our armed forces veterans with great respect, and always have
  • You’ve never burned an American flag in protest, nor intend to
  • You know what you believe and you aren’t afraid to say so, no matter who is listening
  • You respect your elders and raised your kids to do the same
  • You’d give your last dollar to a friend

BTW – My daddy’s family was most recently from Mississippi, Texas, Oklahoma area while my mom’s was from Russia and the Ukraine so I get the cross culture concept :)

Have a great day!

Sincerely,
Kira Wagner, Your Freedom Guide

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Gratitude Day 12 – Light

I’m grateful for the light that illuminates the way before me and guides me. Sometimes it’s the sunshine — always its the Sonshine. It just depends on what I’m asking for and where I’m going.

May love and light be yours always!

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Gratitude 9 – Opportunity

Today I am grateful for opportunity. The opportunity to try something new and just be present with the experience.

I have the opportunity to make mistakes – to fall flat on my face, get up and try again. I even have the choice to listen to “the committee” and worry about what “they” will say, think or do OR know that the truth lies between God and I and that’s a good thing!

Ultimately I am blessed with the opportunity to learn, grow and experience so much in life. May you all take chances, see choices and create change in your life by embracing of the opportunities that come your way!

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Gratitude – Day 7 Love

Serendipity plays into life when we stay in the moment.

Today I am grateful for love, the caring of family and friends both near and far. The love of a God who is all present and all knowing and loves me unconditionally.

And tonight my prayers go out to the young family of Noah Biorkman in Tennessee. While his CarePage has the same information it also requires a log-in. It’s times like these that this poem is so fitting.

Footprints in the Sand

One night I dreamed I was walking along the beach with the Lord. Many scenes from my life flashed across the sky.In each scene I noticed footprints in the sand.Sometimes there were two sets of footprints,other times there were one set of footprints.

This bothered me because I noticed that during the low periods of my life, when I was suffering from anguish, sorrow or defeat, I could see only one set of footprints.

So I said to the Lord, “You promised me Lord, that if I followed you, you would walk with me always. But I have noticed that during the most trying periods of my life there have only been one set of footprints in the sand. Why, when I needed you most, you have not been there for me?”

The Lord replied, “The times when you have seen only one set of footprints in the sand, is when I carried you.” ~ by Mary Stevenson

May you be held in the palm of His hand – today and always!

Kira

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Gratitude – Day 6 Peace of Mind

Today I’m grateful for peace of mind.

Sometimes when it seems that there is a firestorm all around God speaks in the still small voice and says; “Peace, be still” and I know that whatever is on the horizon will come out OK.

It reminds me of the story about the old Chinese emperor who wanted his artisans to create something so unique that it would always keep him centered. After many trials, a fine jeweler brought him a gold ring with nothing more than four words engraved around the inside of the ring.

At once he knew that this was what he had been looking for. When he was on the top of the mountain so proud in his accomplishments or in the valley of despair, one look and he would find a balance in his life.

All of this with these four simple words, “this too shall pass“.

May the wisdom of this saying be yours today.

In Harmony,
Kira

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Gratitude – Day 5 – The Power to Feel

Today I am grateful that I can feel, to feel love, joy, sorrow, elation, hope, despair – and so much more. The complexity of the human heart is what makes all life such an incredible journey.

May you embrace all of the feelings of life and welcome them as a mark of your humanity.

In Harmony,
Kira

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Gratitude – Day 4

I wear a ring that says “Everything is possible when you have faith”. And yes – sometimes I wear it to remind myself :)

The saying is true. Who know what we could accomplish if we would release the negative self-talk, that committee that sits on the shoulder and says, who are you to imagine that?

There is a reason that you can’t turn around without seeing some kind of motivational saying about never giving up, always believing, having faith.

Last night a part of me was wondering what was the point of this self-imposed idea of 50+ days writing and sharing about something to be grateful for. Isn’t it just one more voice that keeps saying “the same thing”? And then I heard that little voice repeating “whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.”

And suddenly I understood in my mind what my heart had told me long before – these ARE the thoughts that will serve us, they are profitable for the body, mind and spirit.

Our thoughts do create our reality so…today I am most grateful for the simple suggestion of doing this gratitude “excercise”.

Who knows what will happen by the New Year!

Join me, won’t you, in seeing what you can accomplish with just a little faith!

In Harmony,
Kira

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Gratitude – Day 2

Well, for all intents and purposes day 2 is nearly gone but it’s length has shown me so many things to be grateful for…

Here are just a few of the simple things that I tend to take for granted each day – I can see the beauty around me with my eyes, I can hear the music of life and laughter, I can feel the love of a friend or loved one with a simple touch of the hand, I can  think for myself and make my own choices / decisions, I can speak my mind and my heart without fear of recrimination, I can use my hands to create and my feet to take me to new destinations…and the list goes on.

So as you log on to your computer and read this message – just stop for a moment and think about all of the gifts that you have – spiritually, physically and financially that made all of this possible…then smile and share that freedom with a friend!

Make it a great day and I will see you tomorrow!

In harmony,
Kira

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A Journey to Artistry

“A singer’s work is never done.” That is the first thing that comes to mind when discussing the varying levels of proficiency in a singer who participates in any type of ensemble work. While much of this applies to all singers – it is specifically targeted for Sweet Adelines, female singers performing in the barbershop style of 4-part harmony.

We must begin with the understanding that the instrument itself is dynamic. The human voice is always changing and affected by a number of items that, in and of themselves, are also dynamic. These include such factors as:

  • Overall health
  • Age
  • Emotions
  • Environment
  • The performing ensemble (the ability to interact, connect with and trust the other performers and audience)
  • Innate skills (God given – may not know how or why they can do something)
  • Acquired skills (through practice and education)

This constant dynamic state is the single most noticeable attribute that wears any singer down. Our expectation is that that once we get a handle on a particular skill we can move on. We are finished with “that” and we don’t want to work on “it” any more.

Nowhere is this dynamic change more evidenced than in the breathing skills. Yet, each successive skill is built with an ever-increasing awareness of the breath, which connects us to our bodies, our sound, our music and our soul.

From Novice to Expert, I believe a singer tends to fall within one OR MORE of the “Four Stages of Competency”. The singer may move backward or forward based upon what is going on in their lives. For example, a woman during pregnancy may find that breathing while singing takes on a completely new dimension, even though she had reached the point in her singing career where it required little thought due to her physical exercise routine during the “non-pregnant” state. Another example is seen in the process of recovering after any kind of vocal distress. This requires patience that the singer may or may not willingly accept.

Moreover, the idea that just because I KNOW how something is to be done, I can immediately integrate it has tripped more potential adult singers than any single perceived obstacle. The ability to deliver a performance that captivates an audience takes time and practice. As Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence then is not an act but a habit.” Therefore, contrary to the popular saying “practice makes perfect” any accomplished artist or sports aficionado knows that practice makes permanent, so the simple fact is, perfect practice creates a perfect performance.

Being one to have a firsthand relationship with the saying, “God grant me patience, but hurry”, it has taken years to find that place where “now” is filled with “joy”. I have fought with myself to own the concept that the joy is in the journey, not the destination. As singers, we will always be in a state of growth or decay – we choose. As Kim Hulbert once pointed out, a state of perfection is only achieved when you are six feet under.

So let us examine the necessary skills along with the four stages and their interaction. It is the one who masters the skills and acquires the gift to perform in the “now” of sharing their performance with their audience, that one finds an artist who uses their instrument as their brush and the universe as their canvas.

7 Skill Areas

Starting with the specific skill areas, the following list is a short version of an ensemble singer’s ideal skill areas.

  1. Posture
    1. Total connection from head to toe with fluid, flexible freedom
  2. Breath
    1. As the foundation for any sound, the breath carries with it the ability to deliver the sound. This sound will ride on a column of air that is free from tension both on the inhalation and exhalation
  3. Pitch Accuracy
    1. The internal sense of “do” and the ability to produce sounds that enhance the ring and spin of the barbershop style of music
  4. Articulation
    1. With a focus on the American English language, singing well-matched vowels and consonants that create a flowing vocal line and allows the listener to understand the story being told
      1. A visual chart as well as audio examples of several diphthongs can be seen / heard at http://www.paulmeier.com/ipa/diphthongs.html
  5. Resonation
    1. The balanced combination of back space and “ping” within the voice creating overtones using the four resonators
      1. Nasopharynx – the nasal passages and sinus cavities
      2. Mouth
      3. Oropharynx – the back of the mouth
      4. Laryngopharynx – the area from the top of the larynx to the back of the mouth
  6. Vocal Energy and Freedom
    1. Awareness and use of the singers “own” voice
    2. Appropriate Physical Tension
    3. Appropriate Emotional Tension
    4. The ability to focus and stay in the moment
    5. The ability to move with and within the music
  7. Artistic Delivery
    1. The moment when the energy is fed and created by the interaction between the audience and the singer. The singer is able to be one with the message in the music and take the listener on a journey. During this journey, the listener is able to suspend belief being transported to another place and time.

And before we continue, I’d like to point out that it is true that we have all had the opportunity to hear one or more soul moving performances where at least one of the first 5 skill areas were demonstrated with something less than perfect command. Listening to Joe Cocker singing, With A Little Help From My Friends, the audience is moved both by the message and the messenger. His commitment to the performance is obvious – whether we like the style or not. In “barbershop style harmony”, (among other characteristics) the ringing chords set the music apart. Therefore, the unit approach within the ensemble is critical to creating a musical experience that has a hope of achieving that ultimate Artistic performance so each individual will contribute based on her mastery of each skill.

Unconscious Incompetence

With the overview of the skills behind us we continue on to the first stage of competency called “Unconscious Incompetence.” At this level, a Novice singer neither understands nor knows how to do something beyond singing the words and generally the right notes. Moreover, they are not even aware that they don’t know. In many cases, the Novice or Beginning singer will quickly move OUT of this stage in one or more skill area but still have the majority of skills fall within the stage. For example while many singers begin to get a handle on breathing as to move into stage two or even three, it will be sometime before they understand or even recognize Vocal Freedom. The preconceived idea of what is “good” or what the singer “should” sound like can take time to process. They may not recognize for some time that they are trying to sing in a style that isn’t their true voice (such as imitating another singer that they frequently listen to).

Conscious Incompetence

At the second stage of learning, known as “Conscious Incompetence”, the singer does recognize a specific skill, though she does not understand nor know how to execute it. The Advanced Beginner is seen primarily in this stage. Additionally, singers may even have a limited number of skills beginning to emerge in the third stage of competence (Conscious Competence), yet it is almost a toss of a coin as to their ability to execute any one of them.

The singer at this level may find themselves very frustrated because they know “what”, they may know “why”, but they can’t get a handle on the “how”. The singer as well as the ensemble will do well to encourage further study while AT THE SAME TIME treating themselves and others with TLC. That loving kindness, persistence and patience will help the artist emerge through the periods of doubt and–what sometimes feels like self-loathing. It takes time to create new habits, even longer to break old ones, and any one of the 7 Area Skills can be quite challenging to overcome. Repeating the mantra, “An Obstacle is Simply an Opportunity in Disguise” during this time may be quite helpful.

Conscious Competence

In the third stage known as “Conscious Competence”, the singer understands or knows how to execute a minimum of the first six skills necessary for a wonderful performance. However, demonstrating the skills requires a great deal of focus and concentration. This is where you will find many “good” singers—very proficient indeed—but, they require much presence of mind. We can easily fall into the trap of “good enough” at this stage because we are having fun, the audience enjoys the performance and we probably don’t have to spend a lot of our time outside of rehearsal maintaining this level of competency to varying degrees.

It is during this third stage the singer may have one remaining area that they have yet to relate to. This may be due to either a lack of opportunity to experience it, a belief that it is beyond their capabilities OR a fundamental resistance to allowing it to happen. This is the ability to experience a truly artistic moment of delivery. This experience, more than any other, will encourage the singer to progress and seek to own the final level of competency in all of the skill areas so that they are one with their voice.

Unconscious Competence

The fourth and final level, known as "Unconscious Competence", is achieved when the singer has had so much practice with a skill that it becomes “second nature” and performs easily and effortlessly, purely and unconsciously. The singer may or may not be able teach it to others, depending upon how and when it was learned. Someone considered an “Expert” singer exhibits the first six Skill Areas at this level to a high degree of consistency. Again, the important thing to remember here is that the human instrument is dynamic. Therefore, the Expert singer will revisit all of the skill areas during rehearsal / practice sessions. A singer who really believes that their instrument is a gift from a higher power will continue to practice these skills so that the performance is free of any effort to control the sound thereby allowing them to stay in touch and in tune with their audience.

A 5th Dimension?

Finally, I believe that there is a level beyond “Expert” where the singer is truly an Artist. The Artist exhibits all of the first six skill areas to a high degree and is blessed when they are one with the seventh. This experience is more of the exception than the rule. It is my personal belief that this is often because we are afraid to be laughed at, to make a mistake, yes even to fall on our face. We refuse to risk much – therefore our ability to experience much is elusive. It is important to remove all elements of doubt within any performance. Knowing that we can deliver (Conscious Competence) is only a single element of the Artistry, trusting that we have the ability to deliver (Unconscious Competence) is yet another key. However, it does not stop there. In an ensemble, there are other performers on the stage. This level of Artistry means that everyone trusts each other to deliver. That takes time, preparation and Belief. Or maybe—that’s where it all starts…

May your path include a journey to transcend and experience the magic of that artistic moment. My desire for you is that it will be yours at least once in your life.

In Harmony,

Kira Wagner

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